the child isnt mine and the judge doesnt care

[someone]

i got married to a gal who said that she was pregnant with my child 7 years ago. we seperated after two weeks and we were finally divorced january 2007 and i found out by paternity testing that i wasnt the father 7 months after the divorce was final. i hired a lawyer and she ended up being a real piece of work! i did all of the legal work and she filed it all. when it came to court, she just sat there. i am trying to prove that my ex lied to me about the paternity of this child and to stop the child suport. i found the father, he said in his deposition that he would take over.
the judge sided with my ex, saying that it is out of the timing of the decree to reopen the divorce decree under the 60-b motion. i was 6 days too late. who knows about having a certain amount of time to say "hey, that info is false!!!" not the average joe. i also had tried to sue under the 32-1009 stating that she defrauded the potentiel father and i. the father also states that my ex told him that i was the father too.
i need help. i cant afford another lawyer, this one has drained my wallet doing nothing. i am stuck being legally responsible for this kid i never see. i live in california and the decree is in idaho so i guess i have to go under idahos laws. i need to appeal but i dont know what to do first, please help me, i just want this child and his family to be "together."
i am mad and so hurt that i fought for this boy for so many years and it turns out that hes not mine.