Thread: Please Help Me: What should i Do

I live in NY. I am an unwed single mom. The father is petitioning me for anything he can come up with. He keeps threatening to make the courts make me change my sons last name to his. My lawyer told me I will have no choice. IS THIS TRUE?

I am very laid back and easy going. Unfortunately, I have been going through a rough patch in my life. I have been seeking a San Diego attorney for some help. Otherwise, as soon as I can get my feet under me again you could find me at the beach or in a pool playing some water polo.

Yes fly is right and i agree with fly .

You should consult a good lawyer to help you in your case

you should change your lawyer.

Yeah, turn to another lawyer for help.

He can't force you to do this. Get a lawyer and you can stop him

I suggest you find a better lawyer as that is not true whatsoever.

Your attorney is likely wrong. Hire a new attorney and make sure this attorney verifies you are not married to the father. I am not familiar with NY Law but I know NY has some strange statutes. Father's attorney may have a legal theory. For instance, marriage license requirements may be waived and so on. "Father" may have recorded you and he reciting "magic" words of exclusivity and so on. If technically married, he might be successful in persuading the court that his son carry his surname. I don't know for sure. This stuff gets very technical and requires an attorney experienced in family law.

Obviously, from the multiple people saying this (including myself) your lawyer is most likely not right. If he is going to sit there and say you have no chance and you are going to have to do it, then he is not a good laywer. He should be trying to help and doing everything he can till there is nothing more he can do to help, and it does not seem like he is doing it. I would try to find a new lawyer--you will have better luck.