Thread: Bitter Young Girl

My boyfriend has a baby due in December. He and his ex-girlfriend were on the rocks when I came into the picture and we began talking. In a desperate attempt to save the relationship, she purposely got pregnant. She had been using birth control the two years they were together but stopped without telling him thinking that would save their relationship. It didn't work. He wants to be a good dad to his child. She obviously doesn't want the child around me because I "stole" him. She threatens to run away or keep him from his son. What can we do and what are his rights?

Legally, she can't do that. If there is no reason that the child would be seen "unsafe" around him, then he can fight her. It can be tough, but it can be done. She can't just stop him from seeing the baby all together..

There is no reason the child won't be safe. We both have been working the same jobs for over 6 years and have a safe house with a three year old already safe and sound living here. The mother of his first child has said she would write a letter on his behalf and obviously, I would. I just don't know where to turn for some help with limited means. I think I am going to make an appointment through EAP at my work and see what they say. I don't want to be caught off guard.

It would be important to establish paternity, first and foremost, and then once he deemed to be fit (or, rather, deemed not to be UNfit) you will want to have a court order regarding the custody agreement and arrangements drawn up. It won't be free. You'll definitely have to spend some money, but it will be well worth it when you know that you have a court-ordered and enforcible agreement on your side. Good luck.